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| Question #1214125172 | Sunday, 22-Jun-2008 |
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I am an Entj of but 20 and I have an interesting question, mainly referring to the more negative aspects of an Entj. I have been experiencing a kind of "depression" for the last 2 years or there about, and I am avidly trying to find an answer. It seems to almost be a cycle, as in I will have 1 or 2 very good days where I will act according to type and be a happy productive individual, devising plans, organizing, etc, but also enjoying the benefits of a more balanced Entj like being intuitive to those around me and thier needs, being sensitive and understanding, getting plenty of rest and finding pleasure in the simple things in life. These times are always wonderful and feel "normal". But without fail they are always followed by a down period of 3 to 4 days of depression, anxiety (with or without a concrete cause), emotional pain almost as prominent as physical pain, high high degrees of stress, no desire to eat, no desire to sleep, and no joy in hobbies or personal interests. These periods are characterized by a huge feeling of being out of control of my life (which is the most disturbing part about it all) and is the source of feelings of hopelessness and despair of never getting anywhere regardless of my natural abilities and general proficiency at life. I react to these periods according to type with massive amounts of situational and self-analysis. During the dark times I am thoroughly convinced that I am the problem and am in need of being dramatically changed or fixed to be "ok". But when these periods clear, I feel confidant in myself again and find that all the negative situations I was reacting to and feeling stressed about and all the analyzation seems to point to the situations around me as the problems and sources of my stress. Being responsible for yourself and your feelings and behaviors is a principal I strongly hold but after every occurance of these "down times" I come out realizing more and more that it may be a possibility that these periods are just my heart trying to tell me that I am in the wrong place and with the wrong crowd of people. For the last two years I have been attending a Christian Bible Training Course, which as far as religious organizations go is much more liberated in their doctrine and freely encourage people into discovering who you really are as a person. As a matter of fact they are the reason I even learned about Typology and discovered I was an Entj. However there is still plenty of religious/traditional/ritualistic qualities that as an Entj and somewhat intellectual I have a very very hard time basing my life on which of course, the church encourages you to do. I feel that maybe the lack of complexity, or just the oversimplified nature of the church is stifling to me. I also live with 4 other guys in an apt, we all went to the same Bible school together and go to the same church but they are all strong F or S types and I have a hard time getting along with any of them. Ok, the final piece of the puzzle. My parents went through a divorce when I was around 5 years old, and I have had no contact with my father for the last 14 years. I had no step dad and after the divorce my mother just focused on us kids and hasn't had a relationship since so I know that psychologically I suffer from some abandonment issues and mistrust and like to keep to people more or less at arms length. So my question is am I surrounded by lots of well meaning loving people who are just challenging me to be more open and trusting of a community and the fits of depression is me working through these issues internally? Or am I just incompatible with the environment I am in and am making it harder on myself to heal by submitting myself to it and expecting myself to fit in? Or is this just completely normal for Entj's to deal with these cycles and strong, un-manageable emotions? Thanks for reading, Entj-OR  -- Entj-OR |
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| A14 ENTY-OR You may be bi-polar… hence the extreme mood swings. Consider seeing a trained psychiatrist who can prescribe medicine that will help you level out your moods. There is nothing wrong with considering that our brains may occasionally experience some chemical imbalances which may cause us to be feel unhappy and medicine can help. It’s no different than accepting that diabetics can live fruitful and happy lives by my making adjustments in their diet and taking medicine. Better living through modern chemistry. With respect to religion, you can be a very spiritual person without buying into to the dogma of organized religions. Be leery of organizations that dwell on each word or sentence in the bible and regard this ancient text as infallible. As a fellow ENTJ it’s very difficult to believe that the books of the bible, which were created from oral history, haven’t had some alterations to content over the years. Do a little reading about the First Council of Nicea where the bible as we have come to know it was created by committee. Don’t like the book of Thomas… oh lets just throw that away! They have now discovered over 500 ancient copies of the new testament… each with a slightly different spin and editorial comments in the marginalia. The world has many wonderful religions… study them... look for the common threads within them and begin the journey of spiritual discovery. -- Anonymous |
| A15 A14. Please be careful diagnosing someone with bi-polar disorder and recommending medicines. ENTY-OR description is typical for ENTJs in grip situations. These symptoms are frequent expression of anger, easy loss of control, emotionality, inflexibility, withdrawal, conviction that others dislike them, hypersensitivity etc. The solutions for such situations are physical activities (swimming, running, hiking), spending some time alone, easy reading, accepting the irrational and humor. Practically any activity can be a remedy which does not require the thinking preference. -- jgbr |
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