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| Question #1256735350 | Wednesday, 28-Oct-2009 |
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| Any advice on how to deal with an emotionally abusive and dishonest (male)intj? any help is appreciated...I am at a loss... I am a female entp and we are in a relationship. thank you again -- Anonymous |
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| A1 Ask yourself why would you want to be in a relationship with an emotionally abusive and dishonest person... -- Anonymous |
| A2 Break up with him. -- Anonymous |
| A3 Ask him why he is doing it. It's how an INTJ would handle it. There may be something in your dynamic that makes him feel that he needs to and maybe if you reassure him that he can "be himself" with you without judgement, all is good; however, I will caveat that with Depending on his age (over 7 yrs of age)....you can't make him not a liar. I leave relationships where I feel the need to start hiding what and who I am to avoid conflict. I can't stand the lack of authenticity and compromising of me (my INTJness). ENTPs are one of the types I find Easiest to get along with (I am an INTJ female)....they can sometimes frustrate me, but I can't even imagine feeling compelled to lie to one or abuse one. ENTPs are very easy to speak my mind to (good and bad) and RECEIVE input back as they are not confrontational in a critical or condescending way. I have been dishonest with controlling, abusive people (father (ISTJ/exhusband ESTP)...to avoid emotional suffering then realized it is better to leave a relationship where you feel compelled to be dishonest than to be a liar. Dishonesty is a character trait...OR there is something in your dynamic that makes him feel safer. But I would not stay in a relationship with anyone who continued to be dishonest with me or abusive. -- Black Knight INTJ |
| A4 thankyou for the feedback. Anymore in-put (esp. from intjs) is appreciated. thank you again -- poster of the question |
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