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| Question #1210268590 | Thursday, 8-May-2008 |
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| Okay. I am a 16 year old female. I am often depressed and "the flame inside" always get peed on. But within the ashes there are sparks. Life is like a spiral of hope and despair and just plain normality. I am bad at math, and good at languages. However, my english class is my least favorite class. Despite how tolerent I am this year, the class will serve me no purpose this year. My english teacher and the students dissappoint me to the point of imagining a month living with them as pure torture. Aside from the random babblering, I'd like to know if there are any advices for an intp that lacks confidence, went through depression(ongoing), and is developing her communicating skills? When I am doing something myself I know I can do it if I want to. When another person is included in the equation, the self-confidence becomes near non-existant. I'd also like to know what solutions there would be to relieving stress. Under stress my imaginations seem to manifest, in a bad way. Does sleep affect depression?(6hours of sleep or less on school nights=sleep in class and lack of ability to be motivated?) Also, I seem to be good at thinking critically. For example, in the SAT test I took, the sentence structure is the same as the way my thoughts flow, though uncomfirmed if they are acceptable. I like science, which involves math, my weak point, but I also like the arts. I can't choose between the arts(literature, art, designing, music, etc). Art is something I'm used to, which is why I thought of going science instead. However, both fields, can get boring. In art and science, I know my potential, though others close to me don't expect much. The only emotional support I seem to accept as emotional support is my mothers. And once again, the blabbering starts. I suspect people for lack of sinserity, and once they dissapoint me, even unintentionally, I get depressed. Ex.I guy I talk to about my depression days said I was starting to scare him. It makes me sad, even though I know it is scary. Please excuse my lack of organization and correct spelling/grammer. Often times my uniqueness, as I see it, is labeled as strange. The people I sympatize with are often the people others(classmates) look down upon("emo","gay"-to me, you. The people I see as forunate crybabies on the other hand, are favored. Though I may be a fotunate crybaby myself. I also cry every once in a while even though nothing is wrong. Cried over unfinished homework kida often, dumb right? I look forward to college, as it is a place of unlimited resources of information. I am a junior in high school, and most of my friends are seniors or online frieds in the 20-29range. I seem to be intimidated by younger classmen, who are technically the same age. I have been a little too forgetful lately. It makes me think I ran out of memory storage space and whatever I just saved is being deleted. It affects my life greatly. Ex. Food on the stove, I see it. Walk into living room, does something, walk back in, cook frozen food, walk out, back in, gets food from microwave, sees food on stove and goes...-_-;. Also clumsy beyond comparision. I see to be elegantly clumsy. I's also bad at taking care of things, including my body. Ex.I wash my face and hands more than most, however there's dust all over my stuff, and my body has lost most of it's motor skills. To summerize a bit, my main problems are: Where I'm headed towards in life? If I can live a year in the future without feeling like **** 45% of the year. Why I am depressed so often? Whether or not I'll be able to live by the time I reach 18?>>;;;; I know that a reset button does not exist, however my mind sees the end of all living things as an optional that can't be deleted. I just live enduring then switching to whatever! I'm done being sad, back to ;_; then +_+ then ^^ then ;_; then -.- then T-T then -.- then +_+ then ^^ then U-U. For some reason, whenever I slide right down a hill, I end up happy, but sometimes I slide to far down.-_- I have a C- in chemistry and I know I currently have a D or F in precalculus(what?studying, what's that? what? no, i didn't procrasitinate!). It's like I planted an atomic bomb there and a landmine waiting to be steped on here. Out of my 6 classes I enjoy 4. 6-2+(-2)=2 boring partly enjoyable classes(art1 and u.s.history).failed spanish 1 due to depression last year(not caring for the class at all)(overly timid)(talking{like"the answer is cat"} and just walking around made me self-concious), this year like last year,spanish teacher gets no r.e.s.p.e.c.t.=unenjoyable class. -_- I feel right out of the tree I took forever to climb. Wish I was born a male instead. I am either self-centered, need theorapy, or just... um... a 16 year old female intp junior in high school. Sorry for the trouble and thank you in advance. -- -_- Life's a Pain(Usually) |
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| A1 I'm not going in any particular order, so this might or might not confuse you... lack of sleep = death You've probably noticed it yourself, but the less sleep you get, the less motivated you are, not to mention more grumpy, tired, sad, weak, etc. etc. Plus your eyes start hurting like hell. If you are used to it then you might not notice as much, but trust me, sleep is a huge factor in your everyday life, whether you are used to getting it or not. Letting out stress: try to find something you really enjoy, and indulge yourself (but not too much)in it for at least an hour a day. If you don't have time, then pamper yourself... not like going to a spa or anything, but eat tasty stuff, go for a walk, talk talk talk to your mom, listen to music (it has to suit your mood though... for example, if you're angry, listen to angry music), cry, procrastinate, whine about your problems, etc. If any of those things make you feel pathetic in any way, then drop it immediately, and try to do something more productive that would make you feel useful, creative, or special. One way that I find helps is writing down my feelings. Be it a depressing poem that doesn't rhyme, a sad song with no melody, an overly descriptive list of things that **** you off, an autobiography, or your very own Hammurabi's Code for idiots, it really helps in getting stuff off your chest. Another benefit to this, is that when you're done venting, you can show it to someone else, to show how you feel about something about that's person that's bothering you. For example, after a fight with your parents, instead of jus crying and being generally miserable, you can write down your feelings, their causes, how you wished the argument would turn out, and why the fight began in the first place. This not only organizes your thoughts but also allows people to understand your actions. 3. Bad grades, stupid classes, unsympathetic teachers? Forget about them! Concentrate on what you really find enjoyable and important. Quit thrashing about in the water, swim to the edge of the lake and hold on to something that doesn't depress you/make you feel stupid/tire you out. Once you've established some solid goals, made progress, or feel better, you can start working on the things you're struggling on. But it has to be systematic, logical, and befitting to your moods, or you'll start to go all over the place all over again. DO NOT lose confidence, or veer off from the plan! If you do lose track, start a new plan. New beginnings are always possible. And confidence is key! Even if you have no confidence, tell yourself that you do have confidence, and things to be proud about. Don't pore over your problems and deficits, concentrate on your positives and think how you can make more of them. Be kind to people, don't do things that you look down on in other people, don't make yourself feel like a hypocrite or a jerk. If you make a stupid mistake, laugh about it, brainstorm the positives resulting from that actionn, and lastly, just plain forget about it. If some nasty corner in your mind starts reminding you of it, ignore it, ostracize it, verbally crucify it! Don't let anything make you feel any less than what you are. 5. If people tell you that you scare them, they're pansies. Try to accomodate them as best as you can, but don't think badly of yourself. If you sound too mature for your age, it's a good thing, and you've saved a couple of years for even more maturity. You're way ahead of your peers! If you feel as if you've wasted your childhood in being too much of a boring old lady, let loose and act like a silly little nit in however way that best fits your mood. Think up funny scenarios in your head, smile a lot, go play, dance like a chicken, write a stupid story with a childish ending, laugh when that guy falls over in the cafetaria, or rot your teeth out with hard candy. If you get scared in the night, then keep the light on until you feel dead tired. Or read. Or dance like a chicken. 6. Bodily functions gone awry? Don't bother doing anything drastic, just do little things, like going for a walk when you feel restless, do yard work, polish up on that chicken dance (is this getting annoying yet?), vacuum the entire house, jump up and down, secretly do push-ups and sit-ups in your bedroom, do breathing exercises, etc. If you can't climb trees, then don't, or try it later when you feel like you can. 7. Don't worry about clumsiness or being absentminded... it's probably something that you'll never change, and it's fairly common, anyway. Everyone has some sort of ridiculous flaw, and maybe that's yours. Laugh at it, don't weed it out! Humorous flaws are sacred. Lastly, POWER UP! Mind energy is renewable, believe it or not. -- Anonymous |
| A2 I have so many grammer errors and spelling mistakes in all of the above that it kills me. English is suppose to be something I'm good at... It seems I am more stable right now but later I will probably get depressed again...But for now, please give whatever advice that comes to mind. -- -_- Life's a Pain(Usually) |
| A3 Thank you for your advice. ^-^ I really appreciate it. -- -_- Life's a Pain(Usually) |
| A4 I'm not sure my observation has much to do with socionics, but I wish that I'd had someone tell me in high school that what you do in high school doesn't matter much - the exception is doing some thinking about and experimenting with work that will sustain and satisfy you for the rest of your life. I really resent the old-school model of just harping about how important it is to go to college and then leaving the trusting young person to find out how basically worthless high school was, and in my case, college. Do you work? You may want to find some kind of job to have something different from going to school. -- econdude |
| A5 I didn't read your three page essay of a question, but if you're an INTp and you're depressed the solution is ESFps. Lots and lots of ESFps. They'll give you problems like anyone else, but things will be more fun with them around. The root of a lot of depression is caring too much. It helps if you can just stop caring. Just look at Buddhism, the whole religion revolves around not caring about life's bullcrap. -- oo ro |
| A6 A5 that is a really interesting interpretation you just made. -- Jas |
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