Go Back   Socionics Forums > Ramble Mumble

Ramble Mumble Anything goes, but please make an effort to stay positive and keep it socionics related.


Reply
 
Thread Tools
  #1  
Old 07/11/2011, 10:38 PM
complicater-complexer's Avatar
complicater-complexer complicater-complexer is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Posts: 1,374
Default How to make someone like you

There is a particular person which I desperately need to like me. But I have a very weak F and I need advice.

How to act? What to say? How to respond?

Did you guys face a similar situation? What did you do?
__________________
"To live happy, live hidden."
β ST, E6 autopreservation.
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 13/11/2011, 10:19 PM
Kittykat Kittykat is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 155
Default

Be interested in them. Ask them questions about themselves (or about a topic that they like to talk about), in a non-pushy way, inviting them to open up to you. Give them your undivided attention: face them, eye contact, etc. Try not to attack anything they say. When someone feels that you are "tuned in" to them, they will, more likely than not, like you. (This is assuming you're wanting a peer to like you? If it's a professor/boss, or someone else who is "above" you in a heirarchy, it might be *slightly* different but the guidelines are generally the same, I think.)
__________________
Just dance! :-)
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 15/11/2011, 09:14 PM
Cyclops Cyclops is offline
Gone on holiday...
 
Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 2,284
Default

Why don't you give them money and stuff?
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 17/11/2011, 02:12 PM
Zeus Zeus is offline
Administrator
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 106
Default

You want them to like you because you need something from them?
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 18/11/2011, 06:18 PM
complicater-complexer's Avatar
complicater-complexer complicater-complexer is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Posts: 1,374
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Zeus View Post
You want them to like you because you need something from them?
Not at all, I usually try to let the people who I like to like me.
__________________
"To live happy, live hidden."
β ST, E6 autopreservation.
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 05/12/2011, 06:51 PM
Samia Samia is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 7
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by complicater-complexer View Post
There is a particular person which I desperately need to like me. But I have a very weak F and I need advice.

How to act? What to say? How to respond?

Did you guys face a similar situation? What did you do?
basically i dont think should you do all this pretending thing but i think you should try to be caring bout others and be nice and diplomatic but dont come off as fake sorry if this doesnt help
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 10/01/2012, 11:29 PM
Dutch Dutch is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 7
Default

I wouldn't try to 'make someone like me' if I were in your shoes to be honest. I think it's best to stay true to yourself. I don't think that, eventually, socionics types matter a lot when it comes to 'getting along' with someone. Any two adult minds are probably capable to adjust to one another. I think its only when people get into closer relationships that socionic type differences start to play a larger part.
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 11/01/2012, 03:49 PM
tricks's Avatar
tricks tricks is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Posts: 11
Default

make compliments on things you genuinely like about people, don't say "i like your t-shirt" if you don't like their t-shirt !

give them sensory pleasure of some sort - be it food, a nice box, anything really

try and work out what they don't like people doing to them - if you can work that out you can win people over easily i find

another really obvious thing, but also not that obvious, simply because it's that obvious; is you can literally ask people "what makes you like someone?" directly, people love to talk about themselves and this cuts the crap instantly and makes things easier for both of you
Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 14/01/2012, 06:38 AM
cowslip cowslip is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 4
Default

Can you describe what their personality is like?
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 15/01/2012, 11:54 AM
Cruiser Cruiser is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 12
Default

Why not find someone else who is naturally compatible?
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 20/01/2012, 04:23 AM
Appleteck's Avatar
Appleteck Appleteck is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 101
Default

I might be alone on this but... How about just being yourself?
__________________
Remember- Its not personal, its personality!

Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 09/04/2012, 06:38 PM
janelle janelle is offline
Junior Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 4
Default

Are you trying to reach this person on a deeper level? Since you are an INTP, I think you can just get closer to that person by talking to them. I learned that sometimes just being around them helps because they become accustomed to your presence. My INTJ self says to find out that person's type and research about the kinds of things they do and don't like. :P But I think that communication is the most important thing.

I also have little to no Fe, and that also makes it a little hard for me to connect to people on a deeper level. I usually put on a facade around nearly everyone I know except my older sister because social connections are important at my age, but if I really want to get to know someone I talk to them. Sometimes conversations might be really awkward though, and I get what you mean. :P

I liked this guy, and I was really self conscious about how to act and what to say around him, and this led to us having little conversation because I wanted him to like me so much. After he found out I liked him, we awkwardly drifted apart, but at the start of the new school year we found out we had most classes together. I decided I wasn't going to let the past bother me and now I act however I want to act around him. Surprisingly we're closer than before because I'm less reserved, but just as friends.

From this experience, I think that if you should just be yourself so they get to see the true you. By monitoring everything you say and thinking "Oh, if I say/don't say this or that, then they'll like me more." Quite the opposite, because you would actually be starting the relationship you want so badly with not necessarily a lie, but reservations and a facade. You wouldn't want to keep thinking of what they feel about all you say and do because that would just be tiring and miserable. Like Dr. Seuss' quote, Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 09/04/2012, 07:50 PM
Appleteck's Avatar
Appleteck Appleteck is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2008
Posts: 101
Default

Quote:
Dr. Seuss' quote, Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Love the quote!
__________________
Remember- Its not personal, its personality!

Reply With Quote
Reply


Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off



All times are GMT +1. The time now is 12:24 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Copyright 2007 SOCIONICS.COM