Socionics Forums

Socionics Forums (
-   Ramble Mumble (
-   -   Extreme difficulties in getting close to people (

complicater-complexer 15/02/2012 09:42 PM

Extreme difficulties in getting close to people
This problem is making me sick. I can't go any step after formality with people. I have a lot of imagined distance in my head between I and the people and this is coupled with a lot fear. I don't even have enough Fe to just connect with people. I am nice and polite, but stay distant.

I was complaining to a colleague of mine that I am not being able to become friend with my advisor, he told me that I will never become friend by just talking to him once per week for half an hour because people think they can't get close to me.

How the heck can I start? Note that in social situations I do talk, I am not shy, but just don't get close to the person emotionally. Is what I am describing a weak F? I really wonder because I frequently think I am ISFj. But I still can't know if my advisor likes me or not.

nahbee1235 16/02/2012 04:47 AM

Have you thought that maybe it's not you personally that is the problem, but perhaps that you aren't interacting with people of your own quadra or who value your ego-functions??? Just a thought...

ValerieUGA 24/02/2012 08:53 PM

Your prob may be Freudian (or simply psychodynamic) not type. An under developed ego can lead to disruptions in object relations. Maybe you have a problem developing appropriate attachments? Just a thought.

ISFj? :eek:

shadowpuppet 29/04/2018 04:44 PM

Try using your least valued functions.

All times are GMT +1. The time now is 01:42 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2020, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Copyright 2007 SOCIONICS.COM