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Question #1252752815Saturday, 12-Sep-2009
Category: ENFp ENTp Attraction Advice
How can i attract an ENTP male? (I am an ENFP) -- Anonymous
Your Answers: 1+
A1 hmm usually ENTP and ENFP are not a very good match... -- Anonymous
A2 Become facebook friends with them and make sure to post a funny lolcat or YouTube video on their wall. You had better lololol!!!! whenever they make a sarcastic comment they thought was funny. Flirt with them in the most childish way possible and then run away. Repeat. Do not appear interested in anything other than what strikes you as immediately pleasurable. Do not talk about the future! Not even next weekend, unless you want to go skydiving or there is a sweet concert, or something. Avoid that "I am so world-weary and sophisticated" tone that you can sometimes take, and don't be negative, ENFp! Not that you would be aggressive, but don't do that, either. If they strike up an intellectual kind of conversation, act like it is so refreshing, because no one ever takes you seriously enough to have them this kind of conversation with you. Dinner and a movie is his ideal first date, unless you have something more awesome in mind like skydiving or that sweet concert I mentioned earlier. Make sure that they think they can get in your pants, too. Then bake them cookies. -- ENTj
A3 A2, you issued probably something that would serve as an excellent short term strategy for getting ENTp attention. However, if these apperances arent natural to execute, there will be a considerable strain factor going on on the NF part of the equation. That will be significant and obvious with time progression. And they will also very early on show lack of consistency in appearance, which inevitably will raise my awareness of situation tailoring. And when suspicion ultimately manifests, that there have been a role play going on, then manipulation has entered the picture as a basis, which is pretty severe, and continued interaction considered impossible consequentially. I can live with differences if intially understood and accepted, but not as a discovery of disguised and manipulative behaviour. Personally, I do not have any type preference initially, I know what I look for, and what I look for needs to have consistency. That is important. The person needs to display certain amounts of consistency. Challenges are AOK as such, but one option may be that children may be introduced, and I am quite determined that hell will freeze over before I choose a manipulative mother for my children. Just my two cents. -- ENTp
A4 Thats a very good point A3. I've seen and read that children need a sense of stability from their parents otherwise the most adventurous kids start to seek stability where they shouldn't like sticking with bad friends and bad relationships. Unstable/inconsistent people are definitely a no no for me too. -- ENFp
A5 I dont think that as an ENFP we realise that we manipulate people. It is more like we make them do what we want in a "nice way" without them realizing the real, unodmirable reason behind it. Which we (unfortunately) tell them at a later date due 2 hour honest nature PLus we hate conflict, so we will do anything in our power to avoid it e.g lie, cheat, run away... -- ENFP
A6 As an ENTp, I'm meant to be clueless about knowing how others feel about me. I am. Do A2's suggestions so it's obvious. A romantic relationship probably won't work in the long run though. I think ENFp's would make an awesome friend to have around though. Maybe get yourself pregnant and say its theres. That would work for me. Just my three cents -- ENTpee
A7 Haha the cookies/get into my pants ...has already been done (we went out for couple of months). The getting pregnant idea is very tempting - but no . Since then we been on and off for about a year...and it ended very badly. I am curious if ENTP's hold grudges for a very long time...like i do . I can still meet up with him through friends, dont know if it will be worth it. If an ENTP makes their mind do they change it often? Also very curious as ENTP what do u think of exes ? -- the pozer of the q
A8 A5, just for clarity. I do hope it did'nt came across that I stigmatized ENFp's as manipulating people. I did'nt have such a judgement in my mind at all when writing in A3. And A1, I did'nt judge you negatively either, you just sized up what might work due to a certain request. It is the methodology in the advice I responded to as undesirable in it's works, especially if I had been on the receiving end of it. Corrected for inflation; Just my 4 cents -- ENTp
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A9 ENTpee, you are not a determinist, are you? Meant to be? I already posted a 'disclaimer' of some kind, might hang in a server, or never arrived. Anyway, from A5 response, I get the impression that my writing in A2 came across as a judgement of manipulative behaviour in ENFp's. That was certainly not intended if that is the case. The brisk writing was a consequence of mentally living through the scenario in beeing manipulated as stated. Which triggered off a few emotions of resistance. And that came across, I guess. But no type was the target, not the author of A1, and not ENFp's in general. We can all do that stuff. Hope I don't wind up double posting now, embarassing. Maybe I should have waited... what the heck, can't wait. I've already been accused of not having a life, so I got nothing to loose, lol. -- ENTp
A10 A9 all good, i know where u r coming from -- ENFp
A11 A7, you striked up a couple of questions, I am not quite sure if my answer will be representative of ENTP as type, but here goes; 1; "If an ENTP makes their mind do they change it often?" Depends very much of the importancy in the matter. Making up my mind in my world, means that something important has been acted upon, but I do not necessarily stick to this decision at all cost. Depends on what happens. If cons equal pros, then it is time to reevaluate. 2; "Also very curious as ENTP what do u think of exes" Just me again, but if any relation has been brought to end once, then there would have been reasons to do so, and making efforts to relive- retry the history is a very unappealing thought. Something was tried, something failed, and best left in the past. -- ENTp
A12 Wow, A2. If that is the case, then I did everything wrong with my ENTP. -- ENFP
A13 Ehrrrm you know, you have to do THIS a very nice way, heheheh... -- :-)
A14 There are two types that appeal to me as an ENFp...one is the girl who is up for anything, yet as the profile suggests, sits back in a "supportive" role, allowing me to feel secure that she is there for me, and will only go far enough to make my friends like her but not sending mixed signals out. The other type would perhaps be more introverted, not necessarily wanting to go out and do things, but a good listener and champion of wild dreams and ideas. I married one of those. She sits at home and reads a book and is happy being alone for periods of time without feeling jealous or neglected. She will occasionally oblige me by joining me on a foray, then becoming more like the first type, so for me this is perfect. She works hard while I mess around making art and music; the down side is that we need a third person to help keep the house from collapsing in clutter, neglect our mail, and generally procrastinate on everyday life matters (she being too tired from working, and me having trouble with self-discipline). -- ENFp
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