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| Question #1238236144 | Saturday, 28-Mar-2009 |
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I'm a hardcore ENFp who's been in a year-and-a-half relationship with a hardcore INTp and we've been having issues for awhile, but we seem to enjoy each other enough to keep it going. We have the typical "illusionary relation". We have problems making decisions together, and different things inspire us to action, but when we do manage to "get it together", we have fun. When the differences get to be too much, we talk about whether we should break up, but we always decide to keep giving it a go. He's generally content, and just wants me to love him for him... I sometimes feel like I need more excitement. My question is, is this a relationship that is doomed in the long run, or will we eventually settle into a comfortable relationship, understanding and respecting each others needs? Am I just being typical indecisive ENFP who wants everything to be fun and fabulous and new and fresh?  -- Anonymous |
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| A1 I cant take introverts. They kinda boring and too reserved. I dated an Entj instead. Things are going perfectly fine. xD-Enfp -- Anonymous |
| A2 I know some ENFp-INTp couples and the answer is yes, they can get along well and have a satisfying relationship as you describe, but there are potential physical dangers in the long run (after ten years for example). I have observed, as there is a lack of S in these relationships, the ENFp partners tend either to search for an exaggerated S elsewhere, like in the form of extreme sports, or start to have serious health problems like cancer even though being young (the Illusionary relationship might not be the reason but still, there is a strange coincidence). And the partners as if have to keep deciding whose turn it is to take care of S now. As to the male INTps in relationship with ENFp women, I have very unpleasant experience with them. They kept seeking my company and physical contact every time their Se got crazy or they quarrelled with their partner, and I had to quit seeing them to keep some boundaries. So my view of ENFp-INTp relationships is, they can work, but they also can get very painful and transfer this pain to those around them. I would say, if you have a possibility to find yourself an ISTp, go for it, it's more rewarding and safer. -- Ezis (ESFp) |
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| A3 The love of my life is an ENFP, but has commitment issues, the hardest thing I have ever had to do is let him go. If you can't see your self with your INTP for ever please, please, please let them go. But if fun and fresh is just the issue, INTP's can do that, they might need some suggestions though, our challenge is always to be in the here and now. And as in suggestions, maybe creat a game where you have to do something creative for the other...not being affraid to let each others know things that you like. I think maybe that is the greatest challege for both personalities. -- Miss D, INTP |
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