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Question #1213728002Tuesday, 17-Jun-2008
Category: ENFp E/I
I am an enfp married for 10 years to an estp and we have five children. The relationship has been difficult but also a LOT of fun. Even though I consistently test enfp I often take a more introverted role in this relationship. At times when I do take overt initiative I have to prepare for battle and be sure about what I'm fighting for or else my efforts to communicate are futile. We used to argue a lot in the beginning of our marriage, but it's cooled considerably over the years. When I get tired of fighting, I start writing much like an infp and really enjoy it. Are extroversion and introversion somewhat interchangeable? -- GyPsychic
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A1 I've always felt that if you're hanging out with someone who's extroverted, you try to balance out their extrovertedness with some introvertedness. And nobody is all extroversion or all introversion, we're just different percentages of each at different times -- infj
A2 I'm new to socionics and still a bit confused. Are some functions more conscious that others? -- Anonymous
A3 I was in a long term relationship with my super-ego & I have exactly the same question as you, because I really felt that I started to take on a more introverted state (I'm entp, he was esfp), there was periods when we would argue so much & thats eventually what made me end the relationship. -- Tricia
A4 The arguing was horrible and my estp used to be physically aggressive. It's taken a lot of counseling, which he would only go to under threat of divorce, for him to simmer down. Now when he gets mad he does this little dance, but nolonger threatens me or punches walls. Estp and Enfp relations are definately an odd pairing that only works if both people are willing to give the relationship EXTRA effort and keep a therapist on speed dial. -- Anonymous
A5 What sorts of things do you fight about? Where is the tension? -- Anonymous
A6 Stupid stuff. Whenever there's an emergency or something important we need to do for the family we snap to attention like soldiers, but when things get boring it's seems like we have to make our own excitement. Fortunately, having many children has seriously limited the time we have to bicker at eachother and we're getting older so we don't have the energy either. My extraverted sensing husband has two needs...Food and sex. It's a simple formula, but it works. I have two needs, connection and depth. While he has struggled to provide those things, our children more than make up for it. Ironically, the more sex and food I give him the more children I have. apparently estp's and enfp's can have a working relationship:) -- Anonymous
A7 If two introverts or two extroverts are in a relationship together, one of them naturally tries to fill the other role. So a lot of times people actually become less like themselves in a relationship. -- Anonymous
A8 I'm an ENFP who has been extremely close with an ESTP for six years. Despite being each other's super-ego, we never fight, even if we don't see eye to eye on everything. He fills the more extraverted role and i tend to fill the introverted role, but it works for us. -- Anonymous
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