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Question #1202638101Sunday, 10-Feb-2008
Category: ISFp ENTp Attraction
I'm an ISFp and I'm interested in the subject of attraction. ENTps, I'm going to describe myself, tell me if any of what I'm about to say is attractive to you. Ok? At the core of me is compassion and creativity. I care about people. It bothers me even when I see strangers crying. I'm excellent at accepting people for who they are, faults and everything. I have a very strong need to impact the world for the better. In the past I have tried to do this with things like feeding the homeless. I'm now pondering broadening the ways in which I impact people...getting involved with educational television, teaching, and tutoring is really appealing at the moment as well as helping to reduce world hunger. I'm talented at making boring tasks fun. I love children and plan on having children in the future. I strive to understand everything that I feel is important. I don't have a hard time admitting when I'm wrong. I'm forgiving. I'm very spontaneous. I'm sensitive. I'm an excellent listener. I have faults and I know it. I constantly strive to better myself. I put a great deal of work into maintaining my relationships. Once I am committed I am extremely loyal. I try really hard to be a good friend/sister/daughter. Before I do things I like to pause, take a step back, and look at the big picture. In the past I have made the mistake of rushing into things and plan on not doing that anymore. When it comes to judging people, I'd rather not do it at all but if/when I do it is by who they say they are and by their strengths. We all have weaknesss and I'm sure none of us want to be judged by them. I'm always creating. Always. Usually it's drawing and painting. But I do everything from sewing to film. I love nature. It takes a lot to make me mad. I'm highly independant. I'm free spirited. I care A LOT about the people I'm close to. I love adventure. I like going on mini adventures during the week when full fledged ones aren't possible, like allowing myself to get lost while driving home. I don't care much about what other people think. I think a lot about the things that matter in life. I try hard to keep my priorities strait. I try hard to keep an open mind...even about things that I'm 99.9% sure about. If conflict is unnecessary I will avoid it but if it needs to be done I will face it head on. I don't believe in sweeping things under the rug. I enjoy lenthy discussions about things that are interesting. I hate fakeness. I strive hard to be my genuine self around others. I'm optimistic by choice. I like to lighten the mood when it needs to be done. This is really long, there is more to be said but I'll stop here. Is ANY of this attractive? If so what specifically? -- Anonymous
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A1 good stuff... well, you describe yourself an an infp... any chances you might be an infp(intuitive)? and also forget about how you attract an eNTp, you have attracted me an enfj if you have aim contact me if you want to be friend mine screen name is Mpiazza000 -- Jas
A2 @A1: Are you on any of the socionics discussion boards? I forgot to ask. -- ISFp (the one who posted this question)
A3 @A1: I was raised with intuitive types, I suppose they rubbed off on me. But I'm pretty sure I'm ISFp. I definitely relate more to Si than Ni. And about attracting ENTps, honestly I don't know how interested I am in it, I've never fallen for an ENTp...ever...I usually go for extroverted judging types except for ENTj. Good stuff eh? I can't believe you actually read all of that...that was a lot to read. Don't be fooled. I have tons of flaws I just didn't mention them. -- ISFp (the one who posted this question)
A4 i usually click with introvert perceiver except for istp as well... -- jas
A5 I'm not sure if I'm an ENTp, but it's been suggested a few times (and I frequently show up as an EN?p), so I'll throw in my opinion: The description sounds beautiful, absolutely fascinating (I would love to meet that kind of person and come up with ideas to change the world) but I don't know how much that has to do with personality type. If it's really about you, then ...well, what's wrong with you? As for the specific stuff ...it occurs to me now that maybe you're interested in creating an image for yourself ...I hope that's not the case, there's so much falseness in the world already ...anyway, what *I* found attractive was the conviction (loyalty, good friend/daughter/sister/whatever, commitment to helping people) the optimism (making boring tasks fun, forgiving, creativity) and the laid-back acceptance of life (takes a lot to make you mad, free-spirited, excellent listener). The way you described yourself was interesting too; the fact that you made yourself vulnerable (or pretended to make yourself vulnerable) is attractive in its honesty. Like I said before, there's so much falseness in the world. You're the kind of person I've dreamed of meeting my whole life ...but I would wonder whether this description is of a real person. -- Sounds like "Me-len-three-see"...
A6 @A5: Thanks! =) And to answer your question, I'm probably different than I sound. Like I said before, I didn't mention my flaws. The description I gave is pretty accurate I think but that may not matter because a lot of those things I said about myself aren't expressed in a way that's obvious or clear to others...well except for the loyalty...that's very evident. I struggle with severe depression and social anxiety...how's that for attractive? LOL. Thank goodness my social anxiety disorder hasn't messed up my social life too much. I still have friends (about 10 or so) that I feel comfortable with and hang out with on a regular basis. Put me in a new social environment though and I freak out a little until I'm used to it. And that's the honest to goodness truth. And about me asking about attraction...it just seems like a lot of duals aren't naturally attracted to each other and I wanted to see what was up with that so I decided to use myself as a guinea pig. -- ISFp (the one who posted this question)
A7 It's what is at your core. It appeals to our emotional weak point - ENTPs are also compassionate, but don't allow themselves that room to delve into more emotion because it's so powerful. You do it with this grace... Also, your spontaneity is something that ENTPs can run with. ENTPs can't control this side of themselves - the spontaneous - and yearn to let it free even more. To do instead of be in our heads. The rest is just a combination of strengths and weaknesses. ISFPs have a knack for maintaining relationships that an ENTP would envy - and could learn from. I imagine that ENTPs' ability to be intuitive would do the same for ISFPs. You sound like a beautiful person. This sounds totally creepy, but this description just makes my soul ache... like it's missing its half. The attraction is nothing that words can describe. I think it's just this magnetism - it boils down to who both really are. It's such a shame that I can't pin point any ISFPs I've ever met. -- Female ENTP
A8 Sounds fairly attractive to me (however, since I'm a straight female, nothing is gonna happen...), now where are the "But"s? You know, "I'm an awesome person, but-" -- Anonymous
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A9 SURE you're an S? sounds intuitive to me. -- Anonymous
A10 Technically, you are leaving a general "ideal" or "preferable" image of a female, which in itself draws a lot of attention from people in GENERAL. The picture you painted is an ideal one for most people as it were, and I find it quite hard to believe that it is really all that accurate; sounds too perfect. But I digress, cynism. >___> Personally, I find the mention of forgiving, and readily admiting your mistakes, as well as taking the step back and looking at everything, particularly tantalizing in consideration. That thing about creating, and being optimistic by choice; really speaks to me. And the most attractive part is probably the light-heartedness you want to potray in there. Leaving aside all that mumbo-jumbo about what ENTps are like (A7), that is what in particular strikes me as an ENTp male. But seriously, if this is for a guy you know, don't you think relying on something like this is a little superficial? Better if you get to know the person personally, his likes or dislikes. And if it's for research then... I dont think ALL ENTps have similiar tastes. I know I'm different from a lot of people, even the usual ENTp. Drives me nuts to be called wierd so many times. >______> -- Anonymous
A11 I'm an ISFp who is somewhat annoyed when people assume someone is iNtuitive just because they are moderately "deep" and maybe compassionate. S's aren't as shallow as you might think (then again, some probably are exactly that shallow). I also want to say that many ISFp women DO initially seem like the ideal woman (I've heard this many times from various men at the outset of a meeting or a relationship) but then of course we do end up having flaws just like everyone else (often social anxiety - I have that and OCD and Borderline Personality Disorder). But usually they (ISFp's) do hold themselves together and their true selves come out MOST of the time. Their problems usually creep up every few weeks at the most and then the rest of the time they are pretty kind, creative, cheerful and productive people. Because ISFp's often have many interests, ISFp women can usually cook and dress attractively and garden as well as being artistic and caring and being good at household matters and naturals with pets and children. Many also have a high sex drive. I'm only speaking from those I've known and my own experience here, but those are qualities that I've noticed men often look for in females. It appears "ideal," but just like everyone else, we ISFp's are complex and varied and have our own demons to contend with. -- Anonymous
A12 A10, it is accurate. I just left our my flaws. This wasn't about my flaws though. This was about attraction. I had serious doubts that ISFps and ENTps are really meant for each other. So I decided to use myself as a guinea pig and describe my positive traits...honestly I was expecting ENTps to say that they weren't interested...but apparently ENTps do get attracted to ISFps sometimes. It's a very rare thing when I'm attracted to an ENTp though. Perhaps I just need to get to know some on a deeper level. I don't know. A11, well said. -- ISFp (the one who posted the question)
A13 All ISFps aren't like this. -- Anonymous
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