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Question #1199104317Monday, 31-Dec-2007
Category: E/I Theory
Can a person change E/I based on context? I'm fairly sure I'm an XSFp. But while I like being social (usually), I always stick to small groups and often feel uncomfortable in large groups. Basically I'm confused because I fit the ESFp description to a tee, except I hate parties and, to use the performer analogy, while I like being onstage I hate being the lead. I fit the ISFp description okay and definitely have the committment fears and the "getting close to few people but getting really close to those" thing down, but the ESFp description seems more accurate in everything else. The reason I ask about context is because I find I'm much more people-oriented at home and spend most of my time with friends, while at college I willingly spend my free time almost exclusively by myself. Thoughts, opinions? -- Ellia
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A1 I'm the same too. I prefer one to one or small groups to large groups, but I am energized by social interaction. I am much more people-oriented, talkative, assertive etc with my best friends but very reserved in school. -- ENTp
A2 ESFp belongs to gamma-quadra and people of this quadra prefer interacting in small groups of up to 6 persons or better 3 only: Group behavior Groups made up of primarily Gamma types tend to be small in size; perhaps 6 at most. Laughter and very obvious displays of emotion are subdued, instead, there is a lot of smiling, amusement with ironic and witty remarks or, when serious subjects or not very happy personal experiences are discussed, a serious demeanour. Even such small groups tend to split into smaller ones; perhaps 3 is the ideal "group" size for Gammas. Group discussions are focused on exchange of information and ideas on subjects of mutual interest, discussing and planning activities together, or on personal experiences. The latter are usually discussed not with the purpose of making people laugh or to boast one's position but to get an insight into the lessons to be drawn from such experiences. Gammas usually dislike being "drawn" into larger groups where loud exchanges of jokes and quick shifting of one subject to the other are the norm, as in a large dinner table in an informal environment, especially if the group is also somewhat "artificial" as in work colleagues or business partners where personal relationships weren't really spontaneously formed. In such situations, Gammas will tend to focus on the persons sitting immediately near them in order to engage them in more individual conversations or will tend to remain mostly silent, not really participating in the group atmosphere, making the impression of being "introverts" in the everyday meaning of the term. Once a group is formed, it tends to be wary for some time of "newcomers", being neither exclusive nor inclusive on purpose. Conversations often focus on trends regarding material and yet personal issues, such as career prospects and developments, success or failure of financial investments and enterprises, and the future prospects of romantic relationships, as well as the reasons for the failure of past ones. In more light-hearted moments, such talks get a "bawdy" flavor with some slight teasing. Other subjects tend to focus on internal work politics from the point of view of how it jeopardizes general efficiency, the nonsense of bureaucracy, and how to be better than competitors. Romance styles Gammas usually have little time for "romance" in the "wooing" meaning of the term; relationships tend to develop rather as the meeting of two individuals interested in a relationship and each other. Elements of "courtship" or "romance" are seen as rituals with less meaning than the feelings involved. Relationships, also friendships, usually develop from exchanges of information, ideas, personal experiences of special significance, and mutual help, proceeding to activities together. Gamma romantic interactions tend to focus on the longer-term prospects of the relationship in terms of definition, that is, for instance, even if it is to be a temporary relationship, this should be more or less clear, or at least in one's mind, from the beginning. General impatience with flirting for flirting's sake, or for fun; approaches and moves are made with a purpose, which may be altered down the road, nonetheless. Assumption that sexual innuendo and approaches are backed by some sort of emotional attachment. Once a relationship is established as being romantic, interactions tend to focus on physical and somewhat tough interplay and innuendo. Playful power-games, focusing on intensity of interactions and feelings. -- piccolo_michel
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