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| Question #1185605704 | Saturday, 28-Jul-2007 |
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| How does an ISTj act towards someone he is attracted to? -- curious |
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| A1 he gives her propane and propane accessories -- Anonymous |
| A2 i'm an ISTj and i tend to befriend and get to know the person i'm attracted to before anything else -- Mmg |
| A3 Flirtatiously aggressive but becomes friends first. -- Anonymous |
| A4 A good friend of mine is an ISTj. He's extremely reliable. So don't expect any sudden moves. Great leaps, imaginatively? Not much, no! He'll read, left-to-right, right? Get some Fe, um, how now? Make something happen? Is approachment available? Get along much? Get your number? Are you friends? Are you consistent? Keep it interesting? Make some dates? Keep it up? Get the message? -- Sum-Total ENTj |
| A5 CURIOUS? WHAT? I'M CURIOUS! And I didn't post that question! How many people using the name "Curious" are on this site?? -- Curious |
| A6 ISTj's seem prone to making sweeping, dramatic gestures that belie their normally stodgy, curmudgeonly reserve when enamored. -- curious... |
| A7 Hahaha! Nevermind I think it was me that posted this question. -- Curious |
| A8 WHAT?!?! UGHHHH! Ok OBVIOUSLY there ARE two different Curious's on here. -- Curious |
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| A9 curious -- curious |
| A10 One of my ISTj friends had a crush on me a little while ago. He was pretty stealthy about it. Though I guess looking back on it, I can definately see it. But he was always pretty respectful and I don't know...nice to me I guess. -- Anonymous |
A11 I'm dating an ISTJ (I'm an INTP). He remained the gentleman and didn't indicate a willingness to meet in person (we met online) for months. Finally, I came out and said "let's meet in person," and he agreed. Later, he told me that he didn't want to be intrusive or to "impose" on me by being pushy. He was very reserved until I convinced him that his attentions and affection were welcome, and then he became very affectionate and passionate. That's about all I can say. "Stealthy" is probably a good word.   -- Anne Nonamouse |
A12 I am INFP, seriously romantically involved with an ISTJ. It took him two years to come out and admit he was in love with me, although the physical cues (in my estimation) were there from day one. He kept saying, "I'm just looking for friendship." and it took me about eight months to figure out that meant "I'm just looking for you and I to be exclusive, but not seriously connected, if that's possible." My ISTJ is a ruminator...he has to chew on something for an unbearably long amount of time to see if it's going to work. He did that. It works. He committed. Since the "We're a couple." hurdle has been scaled, he has proven to be passionate, warm, attentive and indefatigable. A wonder of a man, thank God! I'm very glad he took his time in coming to terms with his emotions (yes, he really has them). Brave soul, he is! (Fiery one, too...though you'd never guess it...)    -- HallelujahGirl |
| A13 A12- I'm an INFP with an INTJ, but I imagine an ISTJ is a great match. Gotta love those Thinking-Judging, stable and logical guys I had an ISTJ who was in love with me from about age 8 to 18. I never knew until he told me when we were 18! He was really hurt when it didn't work out, but I always wondered, 'how was i supposed to know you liked me for so long?' I dated another ISTJ briefly in college..very briefly! I liked to have fun and keep it casual. I think it scared him and as soon as he thought it wasn't going anywhere he called it off. So I think ISTJs are all about COMMITMENT and PRACTICALITY. It can be so hard to tell how they feel, BUT they are 100% in when they decide, which is why I think they take it slow. -- INFPPPPP |
| A14 As an ISTJ male, my romantic life has been rather crap. I have a hard time expressing my feelings to someone, especially in that capacity. Typically, most females express complete and utter surprise about my feelings. Sadly, that surprise never seems to work out. At all. I know that ISTJ's have a rep for being overbearing and controlling, but I tend not to be controlling, I have my own life - I don't want to live yours! That being said, my MO is thus: Doing nice things for you Wanting to spend time with you Engaging in consensus decision making toning down opinionated assumptions (I make a lot of them often making an ass of myself!) Finding common activities together etc. I generally want to know you before I date you. Some people are just too out of control for me. -- Traveler001 |
| A15 I am an ISTJ male and I definitely not pushy or magnetic with women. I don't have any "game." With my girlfriend, I got to know her first and found her easy to talk to. It was quite a while till I asked her out. Interestingly, although she is an ISFJ, she is like a stereotypical ISTJ when it comes to giving compliments or showing verbal affection. As in, she almost never does it, and even then only after I compliment her. I think having an INFP mother taught me to praise or die! I am surprised that there are two INFPs here who think INFP-ISTJ is a good match. I love my mom, but I think ST-NF differences are incredibly difficult. I am objective and blunt. My mom communicates emotionally through vague hints. I'm duty-oriented; she thinks even the smallest favor is a new, profound act of love that merits verbal appreciation. Etc Etc. -- Anonymous |
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