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Question #1181623358Tuesday, 12-Jun-2007
Category: ISTj ESTj Dating Advice
I am an ISTJ, and dating an ESTJ. Does anyone know what challenges we would face as a result of our personality. Any insight would be appreciated! Thanks. -- Amelia
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A1 Dump him for a nice ENFj male like me -- Jadae
A2 I have a friend who is ESTJ female enneagram 3. She recently got dumped by an ESFJ male. She basically over-structured his life: writing shopping lists, buying household items, organizing most/all of their social activities. The ESFJ male felt he "wasn't listened to" and that at times she was insensitive to issues that were important to him. This female ESTJ loves to organize and is good at it, often persuading people to attend events she organizes much to the disdain of our mutual ISTJ friend, who feels, again the ESTJ doesn't listen to her, doesn't take "No" for an answer, and is focused not a traditional female activities. ISTJ and ESTJ in my opinion, don't make a great romantic or friendship pairing. ISTJ is peace loving and security oriented; the ESTJ is a go-getter, who is efficient in getting things done, but just on a superficial level. As an ENTP female, I find the ESTJ to be stimulating activity partner and the ISTJ female to be the more emotionally reliable and responsible one. Although the ISTJ bores me because she doesn't ever want to try new things! So yeah different friends to meet different needs That's so ENTP of me! -angelfishsticks -- Anonymous
A3 Two of my close friends- a female ESTJ and a male ISTJ are currently dating, and have been for almost a year now. Though I don't know all the details of their relationship, from what I've observed and the things they've said, it's good but it's also not good. The thing is that they're basically introverted/extroverted versions of each other. So they understand each other pretty well, and have similar opinions and interests. But, every time I look at them she's always leaning into him and reaching for his hand, and he looks a little uncomfortable. He lives more in his head, and she lives more in the real world. Though they're cute and really really good friends, in the long run I just don't think they'll make it. -- Anonymous
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