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Question #1165878633Monday, 11-Dec-2006
Category: ENTp Personality Relationship Advice
I am a female entp and I have had difficulty in the area of finding men who do not think im weird, or arnt able to handle the unusualness of my personality. Is this a common problem with female entps (are men always expecting SFs?) or is this my own problem? what type be a good match for me? thank you -- joanne
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A37 As an ENTP female, I found it hilarious that A35 capitalized 'HOWEVER', as I always do. It's an indicator of being able to see all sides, but having your steadfast point-of-view. Anyway...does anybody know if there is a type that is just resistant to natural coupling? I have thought that about that myself. I'm envious of those that so naturally couple. I have lots of opportunities, but lack the drive once the sexual intensity wanes or the day-to-day becomes predominate.... I am curious to know what others think. To some degree, I think it would be incredibly freeing to give up the pursuit of coupledom, and just be able to live and enjoy others without that pressure. -- Anonymous
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A38 Here's the deal. I'm a female ENTP. Men find me either wonderfully unusual and logical or they are intimidated by me. They will either find your uniqueness and denial of stereotypical female behavior as endearing or they will not. Why would you want someone who doesn't like you for you? If they think you're weird and can't accept that, then they aren't worth your time anyway. Stick with the ones who can appreciate your logic and individuality. And good luck; they're out there, but it may take a while to find them. -- differentp
A39 Why do women who have trouble with men always think that men are intimidated by them? Could it be that they're just not interested? Or maybe women who don't find me attractive are intimidated. I'm just to much for them to handle! -- Anonymous
A40 I am an ENTP female. I agree wholeheartedly with looking for someone who likes you just as you are. However, what we've failed to mention here is how the ENTP type in general is harder to harminze with. Our enjoyment of debate, desire to be right, ignorance of people who aren't clever enough... I've found these things have effected me negatively in relationships. I could never imagine dating an S. They are so pratical do n't allow me to dream. I like NFs a lot but I can be insensitive and not harmony seeking enough. And I tend to be drawn to super Es ...they are more dominant and outwardly attractive which I want to conquer...but they probably aren't my best mate. I look over Is...I just dont notice them. I've thought an ENFJ was a good match but the last one found me insincere.. so I don't know. I think being an ENTP female makes dating hard. I do love myself and think I have a ton to offer to right person.. but we may not be endearing to the "average" man. I am trying to be more open to those who like me... and still trying to find the idea type. Maybe INFJ?? -- Anonymous
A41 I am also an ENTP female and have learned that esfp's and estp's tend to like me the most. -- Anonymous
A42 I have recently dated an ISFP (male) and it was horrible. Well, at first it was interesting and I think we were both curious about each other. He had no intellectual curiosity and reacted to me in an emotional way, as though me being stressed at work had something to do with him and his inability to make me happy. He didn't understand the concept of emotional autonomy. -- Anonymous
A43 I think ENTP women have a certain lack of femininity that can threaten some men. Even with ENTP women who are outwardly feminine might have this same problem. Has something to do with not being willing to let someone else take center stage in the relationship. -- Yo
A44 I agree with those that mentioned ENTPs as generally difficult to harmonize with. I'm an ENTP woman and not only do I agree wholeheartedly with that point, I enjoy that particular quality, both in myself and somewhat in others (as long as they have the logical conviction to back it up). Keep in mind that ENTPs *DO NOT* compromise. I know that the few times I have compromised (to try and be more 'feeling'/or whatever) I felt gross and unlike myself. All that said, it's all part of the ENTP's desire for challenge. I would never want to have it easy in the romantic arena. I don't have it hard but if I don't respect the guy's mind and admire his body, I won't even be kind about ignoring his advances. I'll be polite, at best and flee the scene ASAP. The men I've been attracted to have either been INTJ, ENTJ or ENTP. My longest relationship was with an ENTJ. -- Franka
A45 I'm an ENTP female, and I've dated a lot. To the point of having a bit of a heartbreaker reputation. I study computer science, and when the situation calls for it, I really enjoy handyman type projects like working on the car, building furniture, and fixing the sink. (I am by no means an expert in these areas, but I can generally rig something up.) Sometimes I take on male-dominated activities just to make a point to anyone that's watching. I've found that the men I've dated are appreciative/amused, rather than emasculated by my help with their gadgets, etc. Especially when we do these types of things together. I also do girly stuff like knit and sew. I just like to make/fix things. I attractive and direct, which is a horrible combination, because I rarely get called out on my bratty behavior. I get very tired of being in control and have trouble staying interested. It seems like I'm putting on the same show over and over again. And the older I get the more boring it gets. I am in my late 20's and have had many short term and two long term relationships. I almost always make and break these relationships. For that reason, I am startled and interested if broken up with, and will think about these men for years and years, even if we only dated a short while. RANDOM: I hate the "getting to know you" phase. Men who cry freak me out a little. Men who cry frequently irritate me a lot. I have been told that I'm "cold," which is something that I'm making an effort to correct. I *love* play fighting. I must be in love to orgasm. I learned how to use eyeliner at 27. Almost all my friends are guys. I think I'll probably end up alone. Or clone myself. -- Anonymous
A46 To anonymous above me - get out of my mind! lol. Particularly what follows "RANDOM", although I have you beat on the eyeliner by 2 years. Yeah, save for 4 relatively sane chicks, all of my friends are guys. I can't deal with emotional situations AT all. I get angry maybe twice a year and when I do it's a quick intense burst then I'm over it. I prefer to see the reason behind an occurence or disruption as opposed to getting upset. Just last week my one friend called me "cold" and she isn't the first one to say this. That annoyed me, however, as I'm always the first one to try and cheer someone up and get their mind off things and believe it or not people find me very funny. I just don't openly discuss feelings so well and I have a logical approach to most situations. Like she said - I'll most likely end up alone and I truly do wish I could clone myself. I'd do me, lol. -- Maverice
A47 the logic that entps are dominant and should therefore hookup with an i or f doesn't quite pan out. as an entp woman, i want to be challenged. i don't want to dominate my partner, i want to be respected but kept on my toes. i think that social roles for men and women are complicating the lives of entp women. i know very many smart, charismatic and creative men who do not want to have a partner that challenges them. this is not the traditonal role of a wife or girlfriend. men who want to be out and out dominated are more straightforward in their desires. women , entp or otherwise, have generally not grown up with the idea of finding a submissive man being a common goal. basically i would say that most entp women probably want somebody to challange them and they do not question this desire because it is in line with what society typically expects from men. -- emma
A48 i'm an entp straight girl. isfp guys are the only type of guy i respect, adore and genuinely care about. -- Anonymous
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