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Question #1147042926Sunday, 7-May-2006
Category: ESTp Relationship IXTx women
female "IT" types i have a strong conviction that introverted thinking types in females are rare, perhaps inexistent. i find that i naturally dont get along with girls as friends very well, and i would attribute it to the fact that as an ESTP, i dont have many "girl" types that i get along with. for instance, the types commonly found in females that i can get along with are the ESFJ. but even then, because i am a beneficiary of that type, i am easily vulnerable to their psychological attacks, hence having difficulty establishing a close friendship. as ESTP, i naturally get along well with ISTP, ISTJ and INTPs- all "IT" types. however, i dont think i know many females who are IT types. is my conviction that introverted thinking types are only characteristic in males true? if not, how do i identify female "IT" types? what are some examples of female IT types? -- Anonymous
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A34 A33 nah you just become a loner or look for new mates..thats why I post on socionics columns haha!.. -- ISTp
A35 yes, the body has nothing to do with personality type, but it is constantly "fed" to us by culture/media what and how we should be so after a while we take it as a "normal" or "right"... we learn to act our given role... we learn to pretend to be a "woman(ly)" and "man(ly)". thats why it seems "all women are F"... it's the stereotype, expectancy, it's the gender, not biological sex, it's the duality killing personal freedom & beautiful diversity... luckily it doesn't work on all of us. all the best to everyone, INTP & woman -- me.
A36 I (a female ISTp) like to joke that I'm so overanalytical that I know it! And I tend to not befriend other women because I don't seem to want to talk about or do the same things they do. I eschew physical vanity (no makeup, don't shave, no jewelry, shop at Goodwill). I enjoy surrounding myself with IxTx males for the nonstop intellectual stimulation - and because I can frequently lure them out for mischief (anything from frisbee to simply drinkin' beer & talkin' trash). You just need to have patience - recognize that your E may keep an I even more subdued than usual, and listen carefully for clues about their individual interests so that you can draw them out about that (ostensibly they'll have spent a lot of time thinking about their preferences). This approach is highly generalized, though! -- iAnnAu
A37 Good call! And if I may add iAnnAu re your overanalytical mind I can concur, and where does one draw the line between the viscous circle of thinking too much and then thinking about thinking too much! and i just wanted to add if thats ok, a certain paul simon song lyric that comes to mind 'maybe i think too much for my own good-some people say so, and other people say no-no, the fact is you don't think as much as you could-mmmh!' Anyhoo maybe its lost without the music, ..err back to original thread! -- Cyclops
A38 OK, small thread jack if the moderator allows - even if we don't think as much as we could, we can DEFINITELY think too much. No matter how much I naturally tend toward priding myself on thinking logically, I've come to internal conclusions that ran smack up against a brick wall when tried out in reality. That's one of the reasons I like to hang out with other Thinkers, 'cause I can bounce my ideas off them & get feedback from other awarenesses. Sometimes there's actual amusement value in it - but more often just the value of imposing humility! I have found that I like to engage myself in physical activities as an antidote for brain chatter - for example, when I can find a good partner, table tennis is particularly good because it engages my reactions so quickly & often that thought is practically abolished. It's good to take a break! -- iAnnAu
A39 Indeed you are right iAnnAu, the table tennis sounds like an interesting idea-i've not played it in a while but I was ok at it. What I have done/do for my release is cycling-(for me road racing and training) Racing is something that is up there in terms of exilerating (and dangerous) and rather physical to keep the mind on other things. I have road raced a lot in my twenties but I am now thirty one-not ancient but getting there! I find it personally satisfying to do, say a one hundred mile ride (one my own with my friend or if the mood takes me with a group) afterwards the endorphins are they're you did some fitness but ultimately your just too done in to think about stuff! I'm not looking to race so much next year just some training maybe a bit of youth hostelling and that. I haven't been doing so much of it this year you see-lazy and irresponsible!-been doing probably a bit too much drinking and larking about! started smoking for bit which i've ditched. Anyhoo I've been doing a wee bit of running. [also when out on your own the rhythmic action of pedaling or running can cause to a certain degree a trancelike meditative state-ideal for thinking or not.) also meditation is good for mind clearing tho not had to do it for a while. Think next year I are looking at canoeing or whitewater rafting-physical concentration needed new experience but not quite as physically demanding (may or not be useful to you and others here) Its just stuff I enjoy and re brakets just thought i'd share, maybe that bounces etc an all that stuff/jazz. -- Cyclops
A40 IT women, because of society's pressure, seem to be IFs at first. But look at bit deeper and you'll find they're just as many as IT men. I like ESTps too -- INTp woman
A41 I'm a female ENTP/ESTP. I am definitely more comfortable around men, but I find that I can relate to other T women well. Most often, females with a strong F find me inconsiderate or intimidating. I think that groups of F women ("clicks") tend to look at me like an alien with three eyes. I don't care to discuss beauty (that much) or boyfriends, I don't give out compliments that often, I would rather give advice than listen to complaining, and I tend to enjoy debating nearly any subject. On the other hand, men with a strong F tend to be very attracted to me, but unfortunately, I tend not to be as attracted to them. What I find most interesting about female Ts is how others compare them to society's stereotypes of women. Why, if F women tend to be attracted to T men, then do F women feel intimidated by T women? I suppose this could be another question entirely. -- differentp
A42 intp female here =p u bet we're rare! only 1% of the population= intp.u feel kinda alone at times tho =[ especially in highschool =\ being a 14 year old intp in highschool sux!!! -- Anonymous
A43 I'm a female ISFJ, and I find that I tend to make friends with a lot of T women. For me it's nice, especially being in high school, because T women generally aren't as concerned with all the drama, and being an ISFJ I hate conflict. My current bestfriend is an ESTJ, and my best friend in middle school was an INTP. I will admitt that female ESTPs are a little intimidating though. -- Anonymous
A44 I'm an INTJ 17 yr old... See, existance! -- Anonymous
A45 INTJs are found in only one percent of the population at most, and only a portion of them would be female. I'm one of the lucky few ho is an INTJ female. Most of my friends are ENFPs who were afraid of me when we first met. Go figure. -- Anonymous
A46 INTJ 15 yr. old. There are more of us INTJ women than you think! I can't stand the intellectually inferior or incompetent teachers! I assume independence from rules that don't apply to me. I'm an amateur anthropologist and psychologist. I love to argue- but only will when I know I'm right. I am attracted to highly intelligent guys. I can seem aloof and love to be bluntly sarcastic. I can't stand grammar that is repeatedly incorrect. -- Anonymous
A47 I'm an ISTJ. I'm naturally very quiet and reclusive and it takes a lot of mental preparation before I can put on my social mask. Annoyingly most of my 'entourage' are very extroverted and feeling types. I work in PR, oddly, so I don't make it easy for myself! As a child I was considered 'weird' and almost all my friends were boys. Sadly this doesn't mean guys are most attracted to us when we're older! I know I can come across as cold and aloof; it's just hard to know how to let down our guard. I think it's particularly difficult for us to be the centre of attention as we're used to being the 'observer'. I eventually found my current long-term boyfriend on the internet! Clubs are usually full of the sort of men I can't stand. -- Anonymous
A48 A47, You attract guys like me(ENFj) becuase being in the center of attention does not mean you can get somewhere with the conversation. I weren't able to regonzied the type of people as my dual until i learn socionics and i finally realized just how thoughful and incredible supportive an ISTj female can be. Many ISTj female find it very easy to talk to me as they say, maybe the way i generate conversation is by asking Ti. -- 07490
A49 INTp/INTj sixteen-year-old female. Yes, we do exist. But, I find my closest friends are guys, introverts especially. I do get along with the average, EF female, but only for limited periods of time. I wear barely any make-up, and I have no problem putting on jeans, a T-****r and sneakers every single day. Do guys think I'm hot? Actually, yes, at least initially. Until they realize I'm smarter than they are. And quite independent. And quite a geek. And better at math and science than they are. The few guys who actually asked me out, didn't know me all that well, and I turned them down. Can't help it if they're intimidated. Well, to A27, I've seen somewhere that introverts, especially INs, especially INTs, are over-represented on the internet, because they're, well, geeks. It stands to reason that there would be a higher percentage of INTjs on this site than say, ESFjs. -- e.u.
A50 there are definitely istp women! i had the most gigantic crush any guy ever had on an istp girl. -- Anonymous
A51 yeah i think ISTp girls are absolutely awesome -- ENFp
A52 I scare women and intimidate men =) I'm an 19 yr old INTJ woman... I'm an A plus student and I'm attractive (painful to say but whatever) therefore I'm permanatly single and have no friends. I think too much about everything and I feel like I will be alone for the my whole life because I'm so independant. -- Anonymous
A53 The reason you are seeing so many INTJ women here is because we love researching everything. Especially ourselves. I do it because I get a kick out of it. I am also an INTJ female!!! -- Anonymous
A54 INTP female here. I'd love to meet another one. I don't seem to be able to connect in a satisfying way with all my SJ friends... -- Anonymous
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A55 Hmm i wan't to be able to add to this, but I am afraid I am another one of those INTP females who does not have many close female friends...and the ones I have, I have not typed...although I would not be supprised if I have casual friends of every personality type. (moved quite a bit) -- Miss D, INTP
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