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| Question #1134153419 | Friday, 9-Dec-2005 |
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| What problems might an ISTp and ESTp face as roomates? I am an ISTp planning on studying abroad with an ESTp next semester. We have similar interests - surfing, snowboarding, etc. and we get along pretty well. It doesn't seem like we will have problems, but we are from opposing quadras, am I overlooking something? -- Anonymous |
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| A1 The effect of intertype relations becomes more obvious at a short psychological distance (SPD). Meeting someone just for leisure is long psychological distance (LPD) interaction, being roommates is SPD interaction, sleeping in the same bed is even shorter SPD. If the types you have reported are indeed ISTp and ESTp, then it is advisable not to commit to SPD interaction. There could be all sorts of problems arising from this relationship. However, perhaps doing opposite of what is rational could prove to be more exciting and could help to learn this intertype relationship by experience. -- Admin |
A2 I guess there will be a kind of uncomfortable distance between the two. This may be due to the fact that ISTps and ESTps are not too confident with feelings, thus wary of each other in this area. Try it out and have fun though  -- ISXp |
| A3 ESTp and ISTp have contrary relations. If roommates, they will suffer the difficulties of contrary relations intensely unless one adapts to the other's style. -- metroGnome, the ostensible INTj |
| A4 I don't remember the intertype relations for the two, but I can tell you from experience that studying or living abroad is very stressful and often painful. If you don't want to end up hating each other you'll probably want to craft strategies for getting along and spending time with other people or alone. -- econdude |
| A5 I am an ISTP, and I get along particularly well with my ESTp friend. We tend to keep emotions out of our communication and interaction, but we also look out for eachother through action and enjoy a lot of the same interests. And hes the best story-teller I've ever seen. -- Anonymous |
| A6 I'm an ESTP who had an ISTP roommate in college. We got along really well despite the relationship being "contrary." The only problem was that alot of the girls he was attracted to were more interested in me than him. Consequently, he would sneak around and not tell me about his love life. I NEVER once stole a girl away from him, though, and I had plenty of opportunities. My overall impression was always that he wasn't telling me everything. This passage from the Intertype Relations page describes how I felt about my ISTP roomate to a T: "The most vulnerable position in these relations (Contrary Relations) belongs to the extrovert partner, who may feel as if they are being betrayed. As a result the extrovert partner could start to worry excessively about their next step so as not to make any mistakes and may therefore become very suspicious. Unfortunately the extrovert partner cannot see that their introvert partner is not as bad as they have begun to imagine." By the way, I haven't talked to him since he put the moves on my sister. He got her drunk and tried to get her into bed. It was SO sleazy. I actually introduced them and wanted them to get together. But I expected him to romance her. Instead he tried to get her roaring drunk on the first date and then pulled his dong out. I have NEVER felt so betrayed!!! -- Anonymous |
| A7 A6 the ESTP is lying. -- Anonymous |
| A8 lol @ A6 and A7 -- ENFj |
| A9 "I expected him to romance her. Instead he tried to get her roaring drunk on the first date and then pulled his dong out." That sounds about right. -- SLI |
| A10 Listen to the SLI (A9)-he would know!!! -- Anonymous |
| A11 I personally don't think I can ever trust an ISTp again. A9 just confirms my decision. -- ENFp |
| A12 @A9 Sounds like date rape to me. Wonder how'd you feel if that was done to your daughter or sister.. -- Anonymous |
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| A13 A11: because all ISTp's are the same, right? -- Anonymous |
| A14 No, only the ones that appear to have A9 like tendencies. in A11 I was referring to a specific ISTp. I know plenty of good ones that have an impressively high moral code to ever do such a thing. It would suck balls if they were all like that tho -- A11 |
| A15 ps- I strongly agree with A12. -- A14 |
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