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Question #1120401284Sunday, 3-Jul-2005
Category: Theory Gay ENFp
Is there a relation between personality type and homosexuality? -- Richard
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A58 E/INFP and bisexual here, for what it's worth. I always split 50/50 on the extro-/introvert category. -- Scott
A59 I think there is *no* correlation between the types and sexual identity; however, the types will obviously deal with their sexual identity according to their strengths & weaknesses. Therefore, statistics will always be skewed due to the as-yet-repressive attitudes in our cultures (generalizing here, but I think it's close enough to stand without further qualification). Some personality types will tend to not admit their orientation even to themselves; some will tend to not self-identify on tests; and some will mis-identify just to be f&*(in' stubborn ! For my part, I am ISTp and I self-identify as bi. But having said that, I have to admit that on the spectrum, I am pretty far over to the hetero side. Mainly, I get sexually attracted to certain females ... but I don't hardly have any female friends, and my attempts at having an intimate relationship with women has been tepid when not an outright disaster. My ratio of men-to-women partners is about 6:1, and I have lots of platonic male friends (some even ex-lovers). I can only accept people whose personality I respect AND am intrigued by as sex partners, and I rarely find other women I feel like that about. However, my intellectual curiosity and physical fearlessness often results in guys taking notice of me, so when they make the first move, I get to pick and choose which ones I like, and which interactions I'd like to have with them! (pretty darn ISTp of me, I know ... -- iAnnAu
A60 I'm an ENFP and I am as straight as an arrow. Blokes pooey bums don't do a whole lot for me. -- John
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A61 @moderator A15 ahaha! To question poser, there is no correlation between INTp's and personality. -- Anonymous
A62 Gay INFJ here. Most people don't know until I tell them. -- Anonymous
A63 INFp bisexual female. -- Anonymous
A64 why is it that i note a ##FP and an INTJ thing here. if we can assume personality inheritibility or formation at an early 'toddler' consolidation phase, then we must also class gay-ness according to time scale. (really enjoyed iAnnAu's A59 post! something edifying about manipulation..i can play that game too...cool). 1) there is an inheritable gayness...u born gay, just as one finds male minds in female bodies and female minds in male bodies which is quite acceptable (i saw that on Oprah...the female in a male body had observable genuine female emo and thought patterns, not like the 'acting over the top E#FPs' or closet INTJ cases common on these pages)...and 2) u are a societal gay...bred that way in society by the force follow of data (as in with INTJs) or by the mis-understanding in society (as with ENFPs)...tell me if i am wrong with point number TWO...cause the types which say they are gay seem to mostly fall between these two male types... and if really so, it lends credence to my OFFENSIVE statements by the default formulae i used. Any attacks and information welcome to the welcoming ear of this INTP who really wants commotion -- @sirac
A65 Make ISTp and a real womaniser. You don't get gay ISTp's. -- Anonymous
A66 I find it funny how ENFP men sometimes go on the defensive when they are perceived as 'gay'. I've noticed it on a few MBTI forums. Incidentally, I'm an ENFP female who is bi. How stereotypical! Well, the stereotypical 'promiscuous bi girl' is more like an ESFP. Whereas the stereotypical 'bohemian bisexual' in general is E/INFP. It's all rubbish, methinks - but I agree with the people who say that some types are more likely to out themselves than others. I don't think one type is actually more likely to be gay. -- Anonymous
A67 It is quite possible it is an NT vectoralisation. As INTp and known I was gay since eleven/twelve in school changing rooms -- @sirac
A68 A66 bisexuality is a sin. -- Anonymous
A69 @A67 how in the world could u know if u were gay at eleven or twelve?? i don't think a pubertal brain could determine much of anything at that age. it would be like trying to determine your personality type on drugs. -- Anonymous
A70 ISTJ is by far the most masculine of all personality types... so i would agree with ENFPs being gay.. very gay. -- Markus
A71 I know a lot of ESFp gay guys and INFp and ENFp bi girls. -- Anonymous
A72 is ISTj really the most masculine of all types? I thought you can put ESTP on there as well. -- Jas
A73 @A64 Correct, I am a bisexual ENFP transsexual female to male. Beneath the exterior I have always been ENFP, when deeply depressed (for the majority of my teenage years) I behaved like someone else. I am attracted to independent, strong minded women; for men, I like the quiet, gentleman types. It's weird how I don't like the lines blurred. I am inclined to act more ENFP with the guys, INFP with the women. Do any other bisexuals do this? Just wondering. Being trans has definitely affected my ENFPishness quite a bit, someday I would like to examine the trans/bi/ENFP experience in greater detail. Personally, I think ENFPs are more likely to out themselves because of our need to be authentic. I absolutely hate pretending to be something I'm not, and can't stand when people get a totally WRONG impression of me >:O -- Skittles
A74 There is absolutely no correlation -- Anonymous
A75 No correlation at all. We're all a little gay, it's useless to deny that. But the people who actually identify as gay are the gayer of the gays. I identify as straight, which means that even though I can appreciate sexiness in another guy, I don't have any interest in hooking up with or making out with guys. Women turn me on and men don't. I actually make a lot of male enemies because I go to UCSC where a lot of the guys are bi. All these guys think I'm gay and want to have sex with me, and then get offended when I don't like them in that way. -- I?Tp
A76 Maybe if you're gay then some types are more likely to accept it rather than live in denial. Maybe this is where the correlation can be. -- Bob
A77 hey man... i'm an enfp and i'm straight all the way. -- Anonymous
A78 A72-ISTJ Masculinity I'm INFP and when I met my partner of 20 years what attracted him to me was his masculinity. I've found over the years that he's missing his "gay gene" as we joke about it. He can't decorate, his fashion sense is sense-less, can barely dance, he watches and plays sports, he had almost all guy friends growing up, he didn't have any of the childhood drama, parental rejection, hormone fetus thing unlikely, etc. I've always had a hunch that however we both became gay, it was not the same way. There must be more than one way for a person to develop into a gay baby or person. A60-John Pooey Most gay men will eventually learn to "freshen up" with an enema or other similar device FYI. -- Mark INFP
A79 At best, personality type might hint at who's more likely to ADMIT unconventional feelings - NOT who actually has a fair degree of homosexual feelings. Science is still far from accurately explaining how biology and psychology intertwine to make someone "gay". There's my intellectual 2 cents. Now, to show some colorful pride x) I want to talk about some of my friends as they identify themselves: 1 female ENFP bisexual who knows she prefers men, 1 female ESFJ bisexual who knows she prefers women, 1 male ESFJ homosexual, 1 male ESFP bisexual who knows he prefers women, 1 male ISTJ bisexual who knows he prefers men, 1 INFP lesbian, 1 straight female INFJ ... who I know first-hand tried a secret lesbian experience. heck, she proposed it. see, u never know! i'm also going to throw in my straight INTJ boyfriend who isn't shocked when he wakes up & his best friend (male) is spooning him, & he also doesn't mind daring his best friend to kiss him. (at all kinds of things, they are constantly trying to prove who has more balls.) they have been just centimeters apart, but his best friend has yet to close that distance because he shudders at my boyfriend's beard. xD what i'm saying is, there are straight instincts & gay instincts just all over the place. don't even get me started on all my straight friends who play gay truth or dare... -- reina (ENFP bisexual)
A80 This topic is very interesting. I don't believe that a person with ENFP or whatever personality would make them more likely to be gay. (reasons stated in previous posts) It's funny that there are so many ENFP gay males mentioned in here and I personally have a ENFP guy friend who acts/speaks very feminine(being sensitive, emotional, etc). However I really doubt he is gay. I believe a male with ENFP personality to some extend makes them more female-like but it doesn't mean they are all likely to attract to the same gender. hmmmm.... -- Anonymous
A81 An INTp here thinks you're all missing a vital point: it could be the gay that makes the ENFp, not the other way around. I'm an INTp gay (in typical INTp fashion, breaking any stereotype), and I must say that it seems most of you are suggesting that people with a certain personality type are more likely to be gay, rather than the other way around. Though I'm only 15, and I came out last year, I had known I was gay for a while and had to hide it as a result. I think my dad may have had a slight suspicion, but it was a superficial one - since I'm different to the norm in most respects, he assumed I was in that one, too; though he denies he ever did. Being different to others in one respect, such as sexuality, and coming to terms with this, makes one more confident of one's other differences, and the amount of soul-searching (for want of a better term) required to accept your sexuality, then the further internal conflict required to force yourself to tell people about it, can encourage the development of the Introverted Sensing function; and all the hiding and tip-toeing you need to do until you do come out can lead to good Extraverted Intuition. Basically, I think it's the experience of coming to terms with one's sexuality (or failing to do so) in one's formative years that determines the mature personality, rather than the other way around. -- Anonymous
A82 Ironically, one of my best friends is an ENFP and seems to question their sexuality. Thinking about it, they always seem to be wanting new things, so maybe because their willingness to explore is what makes them more likely to be bi(or gay). Thinking about my friend, she's also pretty open, perhaps it's not so much that they're gay/bi more often, but they have an easier time coming out of the closet. I myself am gay and an INFP. -- Anonymous
A83 I am gay and macho -- ENFP
A84 There seems to be a lot of ENFp's i've known who aren't telling me stuff, going by amount of gay ENFp's on this thread -- Anonymous
A85 I have met gays of -all- tpes. -- entp
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