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ENFp Uncovered
by David Rosenfield
Like the ENTp, the ENFp is driven by an overwhelming desire for
attention and to be liked. Unlike the ENTp, the ENFp is not naturally
rational and objective in his outlook. Where the ENTp calculates and
plots to get what he wants, the ENFp acts on impulse and gut feeling.
While this gut feeling is often ... correct, especially when it comes to
their near-psychic ability to understand the feelings and motivations
of others, it leaves them utterly without direction and purpose:
ending relationships, burning bridges, and finding "greener pastures"
whenever their current situations becomes frustrating. And when the
ENFp is not the center of attention, or is not completely loved and
adored, they become very frustrated.
The ENFp has an uncanny ability to make new friends, learn new skills,
and thrive in unfamiliar situations. But usually this ability only
applies superficially. He's great at making new friends, but he won't
know how to deal with the first challenging obstacle in a
relationship. He's great at learning the rudiments of a new skill,
but when it comes to diligently mastering the finer points, the ENFp
becomes bored and frustrated. Thus, he tends to be ping-pong ball,
bouncing from job to job, career to career, relationship to
relationship, possessing a large circle of acquaintances but few, if
any, truly intimate friends.
Because the ENFp has come to be thought of, and to think of himself
as, a jack of all trades, a renaissance man, and the life of any
party, he has little patience for criticism - either professionally or
in relationships. When criticized, he will tend to pass the blame on
someone else. In the interpersonal sphere, he'll use his amazing gift
for communication to "rally support," gaining sympathy from all of his
friends and turning them against YOU. In extreme cases, where
weaseling won't absolve him of criticism, he'll disparage himself,
telling everyone that he is good for nothing and really to blame for
every problem in the relationship or the company. This is actually
his strategy for easily getting out of situations that no longer feed
his ego. If he can get fired, dumped, deported, or excommunicated, it
will be his perfect excuse for jumping to the next new! exciting!
thing that has grabbed his attention.
If you have an important ENFp in your life, you must take all care to
make him feel like the most important person in the world. You must
keep life constantly evolving, constantly exciting. The exotic
possibilities are always going to be more interesting to him than the
mundane realities. You also must allow him to get "on stage" as much
as possible: whether that involves taking him out for karaoke,
encouraging him to join the local theater troop, or, in the case of
female ENFps, allowing them to participate in "amateur night" at the
gentleman's club. If you don't like high-maintenance people, you
should probably stay far away.
ENFp Uncovered: written by an ENFp
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C95 I'm an ENFP and while this article may be true of your typical ENFP who has not learned to grow and flourish our natural weakness, it should be noted that it is not entirely indicative of an ENFP who has made the effort and commitment to override the weak points of our type. Procrastination, lack of follow-through, obsession with attention. I can only speak for myself really, because I don't really know any other ENFP's good enough to make a good statement that can be viewed as at least researched, but for me, after I discovered typology, I read about myself top to bottom, including my types weaknesses, and I used it to work on my weakness; the pay offs have been tremendous: promotions, a stable career (while I save up for school), a job I love, and an ever growing utilization of rationality. Having a few intensely logical and down to earth types around me constantly has helped me alot too. (INTP, INTJ, 2 ISFJ's)  -- ENFP |
C96 Sigh...I am really happy for you. The ENFP I know lala's through life, married, with kids on the horizon, living in a tiny place and saving very little, yet doesn't see the need for education and can't plan more than a month ahead anything- not trips, not events, nothing tangeable - only dreams.  -- ENTP |
| C97 As an ENFP, I enjoy visiting a crowd of friends, but I don't have to be the center of attention. I have problems with deep relationships but have close friends and not just acquaintances. I do like reporting the news whether it's research or som'n good happening in the downtown creative community. I'm somewhat close to being a "T" -- bohemiotx |
| C98 I agree with everything said by C15. -- Anonymous |
| C99 Completely agree with c21. -- Anonymous |
| C100 This is strangely accurate;its almost as if the writer was reading my mind(Well, sort of anyway), intentions & movements. You should see my room...its a mess from the floor(dirty socks, undergarments, etc.), a somewhat orderly desk(a few books stacked here and there, future goals, project planning, lipgloss, etc.), AND the walls...they are decorated all over(greatest achievements, a collage, calendar, posters, written reports, sticky notes, reminders, etc.) I thrive in tasks when glorfied. Hey, what can I say? I'm only 15. SOMEONE has to feed my ego...I also love to turn frowns upside down. I know this INTj guy who never wears a smile, and after I had a little chat with him, he opened up to me like a rosebud blooming. See? People skills come in handy.I have a difficult time maintaining relationships(boyfriend), and have an even harder time processing my own feelings. I hate the commit thing, and the obligation; it practically sucks away at my esscence. Hey! don't get me wrong, I'm still a virgin. I swear on chocolate; I have my morals, and self-dignity. I don't appreciate when guys take my light flirting the wrong way, and try to drag me into their malicious intent. I am not easy. Nope. Its not happening. I will set them straight, even if I have in injure their ego in the process. I personally love discovering new things, there is an adventure around every corner as they say. -- Kendya, ENTp |
| C101 the person who wrote this article will obviously never understand what a devoted, hard working, self-critical, open-minded, but most of all, what a shy person an enfp is. i think that the "e" part of an enfp is not a typical kind of extroverted personality, since it is more about feeling good being a part of a group rather than having anything to do with wanting any uneccessary attention. as for giving compliments- i love making people feel better about themselves. there is nothing dishonest about that. besides, everyone's a critic. -- enfp |
| C102 this is kewl....:) -- saswata |
| C103 This article is about an ENFP enneagram 7. -- Anonymous |
| C104 Mmmm. Enfp would not strip...esfp are the strippers. Im an enfp who has a 20 year marriage and a best infj g.f. since 16 years old. Also work at a hospital for 15 years. You are writing about an early teenager enfp. We usually have high ideals and exlperience major growth in our 20 's. This is not very accurate.:-( -- Anonymous |
| C105 Yeah. I can pull of entertaining side out of me around kids and create odd jokes (non sexual) among friends but never be that histrionic "look at me here and now" it is more about refresing angles etc absurdity. ESxjS get these moments as well occasionally. I had hard time to fit in with others because my mind was somewhere else than concrete reality. I saw information through very different lens than most. ENFp Fi coupled with Ne (maybe also INFj) manifest itself as somewhat avoidant or behind the scenes behaviour opposing the Se which is about taking direct command. -- Anonymous |
| C106 Sounds like you only dealt with preteen and teenage ENFP's. Any ENFP in their 20's and older don't really have most of these qualities. -- Anonymous |
| C107 Wow~! The majority of this is garbage. Obviously, you don't have a very good understanding of how these functions work. -- Anonymous |
| C108 Not a great deal of accuracy in decsription of ENFP temperament. Too many misses to list. This is mostly a 'roast', focusing on criticisms -mostly non enfp criticisms, at that. Many comments are also just 'off'. If you are truly interested in a comprehensive picture of the ENFP, you might try a site that is associated with official Myers Briggs studies. -- PJ |
| C109 No more than just generalizations?? Open minded enfp to a full, here.. enfp s are the introverted extrovert. The cognitive stack defines that they’re botcattenrion seeking. That’s more entp or estp. Verified enfps are driven by authentic expression which by literal definition is not fakery or attention seeking. Enfps seek Connection. It happens by way of jokes or silliness often - when it’s found by pushing boundaries like Tony Stark Iron man for example, you’re dealing with an ENTP. <3 -- Enfp Lisa |
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