₪₪₪ Socionics - The New Psychology ₪₪₪

with all of the INFJ descriptions which promote it as the ideal personality type. At first I was rather happy because the descriptions described certain qualities in me which I often feel are over-looked and/or under-valued by almost everyone. However, it does me better to not have my type promoted so much, as there are good reasons for why people often overlook my personality strengths- namely, that I tend to be very withdrawn and aloof, only interacting with others if I feel that conversation and the person with whom I'm speaking has a certain amount of depth. I was wondering if you have any more information about my personality type that you could give me. I have a friend who is also an INFJ, and we are continuously amazed about how we experience the same exact feelings- feeling misunderstood and misinterpreted, searching to find one "soulmate" who understands and values us, constant self-criticism for the quality of our work. I am able to discuss vague topics with him, such as my values, my belief in love, etc., and make the kind of general blanket statements about these topics that I have never been able to say to anyone, in part because I think that I have always known subconsciously that even though love, friendship, etc. are "universal truths/themes" they are not defined in the exact same way by everyone. I am also interested in how frequently INFJ's, in particular, end up with their dual. At first I was skeptical of the dual description. However, all the other relationship descriptions have proven true. My closest friend (ENFP) is my mirror, and though I am drawn to her because she understands me better than anyone I have ever met, I know that I would never be able to date someone of her personality type because she is very inconsistent in her emotions. I was unable to think of anyone that fit my dual's (ESTJ) description. However, a few months later I was placed in a work situation with a male ESTJ. I experienced this very strong feeling of needing to interact with him and thinking of future interactions with him incessantly. I also kept feeling a very strong desire to gain his approval, and to make him realize that I wasn't boring, stupid, and simple- all things which I felt that he thought of me. I didn't understand why I wasn't able to just say to myself "who cares if he doesn't value you. you know your own strengths" and why I wasn't able to get over this "masochistic" love interest. Anyway, it then hit me that this must be my dual. I reread the ESTJ description and it confirmed my suspicions. Sorry if I am wasting your time with rambling. It just baffles me how accurate the socionics descriptions are. And this brings me to my next question: When does the extrovert finally realize the worth of his introvert dual? Is there anything that I, an INFJ, can do to show the ESTJ why I would be desirable to him? (It seems that most of my "strengths" are difficult to display in everyday situations, whereas my weaknesses- and the ESTJ's strengths- such as the ability to remember and process large amounts of data and facts, are often apparent. I have also read the "Ode for Dual Contact" on another website. It characterized the stages of the dual relationship. One stage was "the necessity to meet again". I am certain that I felt that way. Does the extrovert also feel this way if he thinks the introvert is simple and not worthy of him? Also, I read a response in the Q and A section about being unable to guess a person's type from reading all of the descriptions. I will agree that it was difficult for me to agree with my own personality type description on the socionics website (I concluded I was an INFJ after reading some descriptions on another website that listed "pros", "cons", "belief in family", "belief in love", etc. and through some tests). However, I think that I can almost always determine other people's types from your descriptions. I always feel like I have a good ability to "read" people- i.e. get inside their head and pick up on what they are really thinking and feeling, even if they are unaware of it themselves. I think this is both an INFJ and INTJ strength, which makes it no surprise to me that the descriptions were written by an INTJ. Finally, can I get involved in this project? And how would I be able to learn more about the VI technique?
Thank you!
P.S.- Would you be able to explain what is meant by "Often feel the need but find it rather difficult to maintain a steady balance between the physical and spiritual self." I'm not sure if or how I do this.
Rita